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Positive Change Coaching & Counselling

6 days ago

This is a conversation I often have with clients and it's often the first step towards being able to make real and lasting changes. The first thing to understand is that our reality is a combination of expectation and prediction - our brain doesnt wait to find out what's going to happen but uses our previous experiences and current expectations to (usually fairly accurately) predict what will happen next. We don't control this process...it just is. The second thing to know is that if we expect things to go badly, our brain will take this as the assumed starting point ... even if things go well, we are likely to find fault. Without realising it we are creating a reality where we are unlikely to succeed before we've even started. Whereas the opposite is true if we set more positive expectations. Now I'm not saying that just thinking positively is going to mean everything goes fabulously ... what I am saying is that expecting the best creates a mindset that seeks positive confirmation. So even if what you're doing is a complete catastrophe in terms of the end result, your brain will still seek positives - you might find yourself saying " well ... at least I know what doesn't work and I can try something different next time!". Sometimes just this enough. Sometimes we also need to address the previous experiences our brain is using to make it's predictions. I'm not suggesting that its necessarily easy to do. What I am saying is that with the right knowledge and the right support from the right therapist, change is possible and it's often not as difficult as you think it's going to be! ... See MoreSee Less

Positive Change Coaching & Counselling

1 week ago

This might seem harsh but just saying we are going to change isn't enough. We actually have to change our behaviour. Now I know that this can seem impossible to do, especially when we know what we needs to be done but it just doesn't seem to stick. Sometimes we have to start with how we feel for the change in behaviour to take effect and talking to the right person who can offer the right help can make all the difference. If you're wanting to make a change and it just doesn't seem to be working no matter how hard you try, perhaps it's time to let someone give you a hand. Interested in finding out more? Message me for more details! #positivechangeforever #makingchange ... See MoreSee Less

Positive Change Coaching & Counselling

1 week ago

Today I'm delivering mental health and behaviour training to a client in High Wycombe and exploring how all unexpected behaviour is a form of communication. It's sometimes easy to assume that we know why people behave the way they do and to make judgements that can actually make situations worse not better. We might assume that it's because they have a #mentalhealthcondition when it isnt, or label them as difficult or aggressive when they are actually struggling with mental ill health. So, instead of thinking we know, stop and be curious. Ask questions and seek to understand the other persons perspective. You might be surprised what you learn! ... See MoreSee Less

Positive Change Coaching & Counselling

2 weeks ago

I've borrowed this from my colleague #patcapel. It's great that we are drawing attention towards mental health and world mental health day is a great way of doing this. However, we need to keep in our sights the fact that every day is world mental health day - we all wake up with mental health and we go to sleep with it ... it is dynamic and changes from moment to moment so we need to pay appropriate attention to ourselves and others. Check in on how you're feeling and if things are starting to feel not quite right, make changes or seek help. And check in on friends and family too. Let's make every day #worldmentalhealth day ... See MoreSee Less