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Good morning from Sheffield. Another day, another mental health training session to deliver. This is my first visit to this particular site and as is always the way for me, I was awake well before the alarm fretting over whether the alarm would go off (which was rather irrelevant as I was already awake), whether I'd left enough time for the journey and whether I was going to do a good enough job... I'm always a bit nervous delivering material for the first time in a new place with a new co-facilitator, and the reality is that this situation tends to be the norm for me. The fact of the matter is that I know my material, I know I deliver it well and that everything else is out of my control! So I've put on my metaphorical batman t-shirt and I'm just going to go for it! On a more serious note, this is really about how the expectations that we set ourselves have a significant impact on how we feel about outcomes. If we go into a situation telling ourselves that things will be ok, our brain will do everything it can to confirm that expectation even if reality indicates otherwise! Likewise, if we set an expectation that things will go badly, we are likely to feel that this is the case even if we give the performance of our lives. I'm not suggesting that you are unrealiatic about how things might turn out ... but what I am encouraging you to do is to adopt a a positively framed, realistic mindset (put on your batman tshirt), have a plan for all likely eventualities but ALWAYS expect the best!
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Really good advice for me today. I’m still wobbly. But I will pull myself out of it. A day of good quality business leads WILL lead to business in the end. So I’ll focus on that end point and motor my way there xx
Every behaviour is a communication of needs met or unmet. I see people every day presenting a variety of behaviours that are a sign that things don't feel right for them and whilst I'm interested and curious about how those behaviours might help or hurt them, what I'm really interested in is what it tells me about their emotional needs. We all, without fail, have the same needs . . For security, control, privacy, status, attention, emotional intimacy, community, competence and purpose. When those needs are met in a healthy and balanced way then generally we will feel ok about ourselves and our place in the world. But when one of more of those needs are unmet or not met in a healthy way we will begin to struggle. Often my clients find their own behaviour baffling... they don't know why they do the things they do. But shifting focus from behaviour and towards emotional needs often provides the light bulb moment and enables us to make positive and lasting change with a new level of emotional intelligence that brings greater understanding for the future. Want to know more? Visit my website at www.positivechangeforever.co.uk or check out www.hgi.org.uk. And if this resonates with you and you'd like to explore your own emotional needs in more depth, message me to see how we could start the conversation! #emotionalneeds #humangivens #hgi #positivechangeforever
This is a conversation I often have with clients and it's often the first step towards being able to make real and lasting changes. The first thing to understand is that our reality is a combination of expectation and prediction - our brain doesnt wait to find out what's going to happen but uses our previous experiences and current expectations to (usually fairly accurately) predict what will happen next. We don't control this process...it just is. The second thing to know is that if we expect things to go badly, our brain will take this as the assumed starting point ... even if things go well, we are likely to find fault. Without realising it we are creating a reality where we are unlikely to succeed before we've even started. Whereas the opposite is true if we set more positive expectations. Now I'm not saying that just thinking positively is going to mean everything goes fabulously ... what I am saying is that expecting the best creates a mindset that seeks positive confirmation. So even if what you're doing is a complete catastrophe in terms of the end result, your brain will still seek positives - you might find yourself saying " well ... at least I know what doesn't work and I can try something different next time!". Sometimes just this enough. Sometimes we also need to address the previous experiences our brain is using to make it's predictions. I'm not suggesting that its necessarily easy to do. What I am saying is that with the right knowledge and the right support from the right therapist, change is possible and it's often not as difficult as you think it's going to be!
This might seem harsh but just saying we are going to change isn't enough. We actually have to change our behaviour. Now I know that this can seem impossible to do, especially when we know what we needs to be done but it just doesn't seem to stick. Sometimes we have to start with how we feel for the change in behaviour to take effect and talking to the right person who can offer the right help can make all the difference. If you're wanting to make a change and it just doesn't seem to be working no matter how hard you try, perhaps it's time to let someone give you a hand. Interested in finding out more? Message me for more details! #positivechangeforever #makingchange
Today I'm delivering mental health and behaviour training to a client in High Wycombe and exploring how all unexpected behaviour is a form of communication. It's sometimes easy to assume that we know why people behave the way they do and to make judgements that can actually make situations worse not better. We might assume that it's because they have a #mentalhealthcondition when it isnt, or label them as difficult or aggressive when they are actually struggling with mental ill health. So, instead of thinking we know, stop and be curious. Ask questions and seek to understand the other persons perspective. You might be surprised what you learn!
About Positive Change Counselling Services
Positive Change is a counselling practice based in Market Harborough, South Leicestershire serving Leicester, Northampton and surrounding areas. Our reach extends to Kettering, Corby, Rugby, Coventry, Peterborough and the Midlands.
The counselling services are provided by Kat Marlow who welcomes you to the Positive Change Retreat, or as a partner in delivering coaching and/or mental health related services to your business.
We offer counselling in a range of areas including the following:
- Reduction of anxiety
- Breaking the cycle of depression
- Resolution of trauma and phobias
- Management of anger
- Stopping addictive behaviours
- Reduction of stress-related medical conditions
- Improvement of personal relationships
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Corporate services such as mindfulness training, coaching workshops are also available.
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