Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy by Kat Marlow in Market Harborough

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"Establish a permanent, positive change so you can enjoy life with a genuine feeling of confidence and accomplishment."
Kat Marlow

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This is a conversation I often have with clients and it's often the first step towards being able to make real and lasting changes. The first thing to understand is that our reality is a combination of expectation and prediction - our brain doesnt wait to find out what's going to happen but uses our previous experiences and current expectations to (usually fairly accurately) predict what will happen next. We don't control this process...it just is. The second thing to know is that if we expect things to go badly, our brain will take this as the assumed starting point ... even if things go well, we are likely to find fault. Without realising it we are creating a reality where we are unlikely to succeed before we've even started. Whereas the opposite is true if we set more positive expectations. Now I'm not saying that just thinking positively is going to mean everything goes fabulously ... what I am saying is that expecting the best creates a mindset that seeks positive confirmation. So even if what you're doing is a complete catastrophe in terms of the end result, your brain will still seek positives - you might find yourself saying " well ... at least I know what doesn't work and I can try something different next time!". Sometimes just this enough. Sometimes we also need to address the previous experiences our brain is using to make it's predictions. I'm not suggesting that its necessarily easy to do. What I am saying is that with the right knowledge and the right support from the right therapist, change is possible and it's often not as difficult as you think it's going to be! ... See MoreSee Less

This is a conversation I often have with clients and its often the first step towards being able to make real and lasting changes. The first thing to understand is that our reality is a combination of expectation and prediction - our brain doesnt wait to find out whats going to happen but uses our previous experiences and current expectations to (usually fairly accurately) predict what will happen next. We dont control this process...it just is. The second thing to know is that if we expect things to go badly, our brain will take this as the assumed starting point ... even if things go well, we are likely to find fault. Without realising it we are creating a reality where we are unlikely to succeed before weve even started. Whereas the opposite is true if we set more positive expectations. Now Im not saying that just thinking positively is going to mean everything goes fabulously ... what I am saying is that expecting the best  creates a mindset that seeks positive confirmation. So even if what youre doing is a complete catastrophe in terms of the end result, your brain will still seek positives - you might find yourself saying  well ... at least I know what doesnt work and I can try something different next time!. Sometimes just this enough. Sometimes we also need to address the previous experiences our brain is using to make its predictions. Im not suggesting that its necessarily easy to do. What I am saying is that with the right knowledge and the right support from the right therapist, change is possible and its often not as difficult as you think its going to be!

This might seem harsh but just saying we are going to change isn't enough. We actually have to change our behaviour. Now I know that this can seem impossible to do, especially when we know what we needs to be done but it just doesn't seem to stick. Sometimes we have to start with how we feel for the change in behaviour to take effect and talking to the right person who can offer the right help can make all the difference. If you're wanting to make a change and it just doesn't seem to be working no matter how hard you try, perhaps it's time to let someone give you a hand. Interested in finding out more? Message me for more details! #positivechangeforever #makingchange ... See MoreSee Less

This might seem harsh but just saying we are going to change isnt enough. We actually have to change our behaviour. Now I know that this can seem impossible to do, especially when we know what we needs to be done but it just doesnt seem to stick. Sometimes we have to start with how we feel for the change in behaviour  to take effect and talking to the right person who can offer the right help can make all the difference. If youre wanting to make a change and it just doesnt seem to be working no matter how hard you try, perhaps its time to let someone give you a hand. Interested in finding out more? Message me for more details! #positivechangeforever #makingchange

Today I'm delivering mental health and behaviour training to a client in High Wycombe and exploring how all unexpected behaviour is a form of communication. It's sometimes easy to assume that we know why people behave the way they do and to make judgements that can actually make situations worse not better. We might assume that it's because they have a #mentalhealthcondition when it isnt, or label them as difficult or aggressive when they are actually struggling with mental ill health. So, instead of thinking we know, stop and be curious. Ask questions and seek to understand the other persons perspective. You might be surprised what you learn! ... See MoreSee Less

Today Im delivering mental health and behaviour training to a client in High Wycombe and exploring how all unexpected behaviour is a form of communication. Its sometimes easy to assume that we know why people behave the way they do and to make judgements that can actually make situations worse not better. We might assume that its because they have a #mentalhealthcondition when it isnt, or label them as difficult or aggressive when they are actually struggling with mental ill health. So, instead of thinking we know, stop and be curious. Ask questions and seek to understand the other persons perspective. You might be surprised what you learn!

I've borrowed this from my colleague #patcapel. It's great that we are drawing attention towards mental health and world mental health day is a great way of doing this. However, we need to keep in our sights the fact that every day is world mental health day - we all wake up with mental health and we go to sleep with it ... it is dynamic and changes from moment to moment so we need to pay appropriate attention to ourselves and others. Check in on how you're feeling and if things are starting to feel not quite right, make changes or seek help. And check in on friends and family too. Let's make every day #worldmentalhealth day ... See MoreSee Less

Ive borrowed this from my colleague #patcapel. Its great that we are drawing attention towards mental health and world mental health day is a great way of doing this. However, we need to keep in our sights the fact that every day is world mental health day - we all wake up with mental health and we go to sleep with it ... it is dynamic and changes from moment to moment so we need to pay appropriate attention to ourselves and others. Check in on how youre feeling and if things are starting to feel not quite right, make changes or seek help. And check in on friends and family too. Lets make every day #worldmentalhealth day

About Positive Change Counselling Services

Positive Change is a counselling practice based in Market Harborough, South Leicestershire serving Leicester, Northampton and surrounding areas. Our reach extends to Kettering, Corby, Rugby, Coventry, Peterborough and the Midlands.

The counselling services are provided by Kat Marlow who welcomes you to the Positive Change Retreat, or as a partner in delivering coaching and/or mental health related services to your business.

We offer counselling in a range of areas including the following:

  • Reduction of anxiety
  • Breaking the cycle of depression
  • Resolution of trauma and phobias
  • Management of anger
  • Stopping addictive behaviours
  • Reduction of stress-related medical conditions
  • Improvement of personal relationships
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Corporate services such as mindfulness training, coaching workshops are also available.


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Kat Marlow is a Human Givens therapist and can be found on the Therapist Register at:

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