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Positive Change Coaching & Counselling

3 weeks ago

It's that time of year where we are encouraged to get fit, lose weight, change the way we look and work on our body beautiful. And all of that is great if it genuinely needs to be done and will leave you feeling good about yourself for the long haul. BUT .. what if none of this leaves you feeling better? I often find myself talking to people whose self doubt goes beyond the surface and for whom all the diets, make overs and punishing fitness regimes will simply leave them feeling even more unhappy and financially out of pocket. Sometimes we have to start with what's on the inside to become truly content with what's on the outside ... and sometimes when we do that, we're realise for the first time that what's on the outside is actually good enough! The good news is that with the right help, learning to accept ourselves as we are and make changes where our self perception is no longer helping us doesn't need to be difficult or time consuming and can be the catalyst for a whole new and more positive relationship with ourselves and others! If this is something that you think might be something you'd like to explore then get in touch to find our more! #selfdoubt #selflove #humangivens #letstalk #facetofacetherapy #onlinetherapy #positivechangeforever ... See MoreSee Less

Positive Change Coaching & Counselling

4 weeks ago

I never make lists of resolutions these days. I find I have a tendency to start with the best of intentions, lose my way within the first 2 weeks and then feel bad for not being able to stick to them. And perhaps that's because the things that I'm trying to change arent things I need or want to change right now but because everyone else is making resolutions I feel should too! If you want to use the change of calendar to drive you to make changes that are wanted and necessary then that's brilliant - remember to make your goals positive (start doing things rather than stopping), achievable and need-based (as in they will help you to get your emotional and /or physical needs met in a healthier more balanced way). If you're like me and find the pressure of making resolutions a bit much, that's ok too. Change is best undertaken when we can imagine ourselves being successful and when we can fully commit to it so wait until you're ready! Either way remember that even if there are things you want or need to change, the current version of you has got you this far and that's to be celebrated. You may not be perfect (and let's face it, who is) but you're resourceful and determined, and you're not standing still. And if you really need to make those changes now and feel that you need help to do it then find a coach or a therapist who can help you see a different perspective, develop necessary skills and strategies and make your changes a reality. #positivechangeforever #emotionalneeds #newyearnewyou #2020resolutions ... See MoreSee Less

Positive Change Coaching & Counselling

2 months ago

Perspective is everything! Our brains seek to fulfill our expectations and our expectations are influenced by our perspective. If our perspective is generally positive then we be more likely to seek positive confirmation of our experiences (even when things don't go as planned) whereas if our perspective is generally more negative we will tend to seek negative confirmation. Also, perspective is one of the first things we lose when we are experiencing higher levels of emotion causing us to tend towards more all or nothing and black and white thinking. So what can you do? Trying the following... STOP! Do some Seven/eleven breathing - breathing right down into your tummy breathe in for 7 and out for 11, counting as you go ... this sends messages to the brain that it can relax, giving you the capacity to think more clearly; Take a step back - either physically or metaphorically ... put some distance between yourself and the situation and try to see the bigger picture and the wider perspective; consider your Options - how else can you respond, given your new perspective; and finally Put it into Practice - implement an alternative response to the situation. This takes practice to start with but give it a try...how else could you experience your world with a different perspective? #positivechangeforever #positivethinking #mentalhealthmatters ... See MoreSee Less

Positive Change Coaching & Counselling

2 months ago

Good morning from Sheffield. Another day, another mental health training session to deliver. This is my first visit to this particular site and as is always the way for me, I was awake well before the alarm fretting over whether the alarm would go off (which was rather irrelevant as I was already awake), whether I'd left enough time for the journey and whether I was going to do a good enough job... I'm always a bit nervous delivering material for the first time in a new place with a new co-facilitator, and the reality is that this situation tends to be the norm for me. The fact of the matter is that I know my material, I know I deliver it well and that everything else is out of my control! So I've put on my metaphorical batman t-shirt and I'm just going to go for it! On a more serious note, this is really about how the expectations that we set ourselves have a significant impact on how we feel about outcomes. If we go into a situation telling ourselves that things will be ok, our brain will do everything it can to confirm that expectation even if reality indicates otherwise! Likewise, if we set an expectation that things will go badly, we are likely to feel that this is the case even if we give the performance of our lives. I'm not suggesting that you are unrealiatic about how things might turn out ... but what I am encouraging you to do is to adopt a a positively framed, realistic mindset (put on your batman tshirt), have a plan for all likely eventualities but ALWAYS expect the best! ... See MoreSee Less

Positive Change Coaching & Counselling

2 months ago

Every behaviour is a communication of needs met or unmet. I see people every day presenting a variety of behaviours that are a sign that things don't feel right for them and whilst I'm interested and curious about how those behaviours might help or hurt them, what I'm really interested in is what it tells me about their emotional needs. We all, without fail, have the same needs . . For security, control, privacy, status, attention, emotional intimacy, community, competence and purpose. When those needs are met in a healthy and balanced way then generally we will feel ok about ourselves and our place in the world. But when one of more of those needs are unmet or not met in a healthy way we will begin to struggle. Often my clients find their own behaviour baffling... they don't know why they do the things they do. But shifting focus from behaviour and towards emotional needs often provides the light bulb moment and enables us to make positive and lasting change with a new level of emotional intelligence that brings greater understanding for the future. Want to know more? Visit my website at www.positivechangeforever.co.uk or check out www.hgi.org.uk. And if this resonates with you and you'd like to explore your own emotional needs in more depth, message me to see how we could start the conversation! #emotionalneeds #humangivens #hgi #positivechangeforever ... See MoreSee Less